So, after a little encouragement from @Zac_R, I have FINALLY found 5 minutes to write a post. The days get so busy that unless you actually make yourself take a time out and put your thoughts to paper, you will never do it. I have been quite for a couple of months, but today I am back and I’m going to share some Wednesday Wisdom with you. How things change; my last few posts were about birthday shopping for my man and vacationing in Mauritius. The man has subsequently been replaced by future therapy sessions with a very handsome, gay psychologist (well, I am told he is very handsome). I find it quite amusing - seeing a shrink to deal with relationship issues and the shrink is gorgeous. So, now you have a good looking man giving you attention and emotional support, which was lacking in your last relationship. You cannot form a crush on the shrink though, because not only is he your shrink, but he happens to only like men. I wonder how many of this guy’s female patients have walked out with shrink-dependency issues? I think everyone should see a shrink from time to time. I am going, not to have a runny-nosed bitch about my ex, but instead to chat about me…In my life I have been lucky enough to date many wonderful people. For the most part, they end because it’s just not the perfect fit, but during those relationships I have always maintained my sense of self. For some strange reason, in the last 2+ years, I seem to completely lose myself in my relationships. It’s been the strangest thing. In every other aspect of my life I am a very strong, out-spoken personality with a huge enthusiasm for people and experiences. However, in my last two relationships, when my boyfriends’ said “Jump”, I asked “How high?” I became a mirror of them and did whatever they wanted, whenever they wanted, however they wanted. For the life of me, I don’t know what made me do that! I am told that the psychology that made me behave that way is most probably the same psychology that informed my choice of boyfriend. It’s tough to come out of a relationship and have lost who you are and have to find yourself again. It’s not the men either, however. They were bad choices for me, but they were just being themselves. I could have stood up for myself, I could have had an opinion, I could have left the relationship…but alas, I didn’t. So, now the hottie shrink has to help me find out why. I also knew quite soon into these relationships that they weren’t right and that I should jump ship, but instead, I hung in there like a soldier. As an extremely self-aware person, I acutely aware of when there are questions I do not have the answer to. I know why a lot of what happened in the past two years happened, but I have still have one or two questions I cannot answer. When this happens in life, and you really do not want to start perpetuating a cycle of behaviour (it took two boyfriends for me to see a pattern), I think the best thing to do is go and lie on a couch and just have a chat. But hey, that’s me. I am a very problem / solution person. I do not believe in complaining about the same thing without making any effort to change / fix it. I do not believe this only pertains to relationship psychology though. I also saw a shrink after the death of a very close relative a number of years ago and her guidance was invaluable. A good psychologist acts as a path finder or a guide. A good psychologist also provides you with tools to help yourself. You would be amazed as to the number of successful CEO’s around the world who see a shrink regularly. This is because smart, busy, self-aware people have a lot going on in their heads, and it’s not a bad idea to allow someone to help you order it when the need arises. We place too little emphasis on mental health, I think. If you go to the sports trainer after you have had an injury, why not go to the shrink when everything internally has become a bit too much to handle? On the flip side, however, I think one needs to have a healthy attitude towards therapy i.e.: once you are done, you can stop seeing the shrink - I’m not one for patient-shrink dependancies. Well, let me not speak too soon, I have yet to meet the handsome gay guy! Lol! :-)
My new hair!
To all the ladies out there, I know just how you feel hair-wise. If it’s long you like short, if it’s short you wish it were long, if it’s curly you wish it was straight, and if it’s straight you wish it were curly. Well, I’ve decided to cut my hair!! For someone who hasn’t done more than a trim since 2006, this is a BIG deal! The funny thing is though, as you get older, you lose some of your vanity and fear of making a personal aesthetic mistake. I’ve started embracing change, and I think it’s time my hair had one. That’s quite a change, considering how long my hair is. The pic of Olivia Wilde below is my inspiration. You can see from my pic that it will be quite different. I am going to get a fringe cut too (like Olivia’s). The funny thing is though, I don’t have naturally straight hair, so without MUCH assistance I might end up looking like Medusa! I say “c’est la vie.” Worst case I clip it up for like a decade (lol). July is a very emotional month for me so I decided to pamper myself in excess to cheer myself up (always a great solution). I will be getting the full works done next week. Watch this space to see the results! Wish me luck! Could be Madusa, could be Marilyn…
Celeb hair style inspiration
New shoes (Taken with Instagram)
Beautiful (Taken with Instagram)
TGIF (Taken with Instagram)